SELF IMPROVEMENT AND MOTIVATION

What is Coaching? Coaching focuses on future possibilities and utilises learning from past experiences. Coaching is more about how things are done, rather than what things are done. It is about unlocking a person's potential and maximising their performance. It is about helping people to discover answers for themselves rather than advising. Coaching works on resolving problems below the level where they occur. For example, beliefs and values drive behaviours and beliefs and values come from our identity. Therefore, working with a problem that manifests itself at the level of behaviour, means the coach working with you at the level of beliefs and values. It is like peeling away the top layers of an onion to discover that the problem lies at the core. Coaching done well is about working at the core, which resolves not only the presenting problem but also problems which at the time are not even manifesting themselves yet. Coaching is about building a relationship which is based...

Hi All, I'm sure you have had experiences with people whom you are trying to coach to answer this with a big "No". Let's take a closer look. How coachable a person is will depend on several factors and these factors can positively influenced by a skilful coach to some degree to create higher levels of openness and receptivity in the coachee. Factors that influence a person's coachability level are: 1.  Perception of intention  - "Is the coach trying to change me to someone he wants me to be or helping me to change to who I want to be?" When coachees feel it is the former, they will resist even though the intention of the coach is good. It is human nature to want autonomy and control over one's life. Help coachees identify effective behaviours and help them see how that can help them achieve their goals. 2. Coachee's technical capability - Coaching works well when the coachee has some degree of competency in their area of work. They s...

Commitment is not a burden when you are committed to what really matters. Strenuous, complicated effort is not a burden when it furthers the interest of what’s important to you. In fact, commitment, and all the things necessary to support that commitment, can be immensely empowering. Commitment gives you something to live for, and the value of that is immeasurable. Commitment is not something to be taken lightly. Yet it is not something to be avoided, either. Commit yourself to what you care about. Commit yourself to those you love. Commit yourself, and you have a good, undeniable reason to get up in the morning, every morning. Commit yourself, and you have a solid platform from which to make real, meaningful progress in life. Be sure of whom or what you’re committing to, and then be relentless in supporting that commitment. Make the commitment, and make real richness in this world.

You’re not too old, too young, too rich, too poor, too big or too small, too outgoing or too shy, too ambitious or too lazy. You’re you, and you are just right. You’ve learned from what you’ve done and from the consequences you’ve experienced, and now you’re ready to move forward with that accumulation of wisdom. Instead of judging what and where you’ve been, put your focus on visualizing what you can now do. Don’t get caught up in deciding whether you have too much or too little. Simply decide what the best next step is, and take it. If you’re constantly comparing yourself with others, you’re missing the point. You are who you are, and there’s enormous value in that, and it’s time to give your own special gifts to life. Find great delight in fellowship with others, but don’t feel like you have to imitate them. The best thing you have to offer is you, so let go of the pretenses and worries and just have fun being yourself. You are perfectly positioned to have a positive and unique impa...

Every assumption you have is based on what you’ve experienced in the past. The world has changed since you formed your assumptions, and perhaps it is time for some of those assumptions to change, too. Assumptions save you the time and trouble of thinking through every decision and impression. Yet there are times when it would be much better to think than to assume. Many assumptions are so deeply ingrained that you don’t even realize you have them. Stand back, put some effort into examining your assumptions, and you’ll likely find some opportunities for improvement you never even knew you had. If there’s something that frustrates you, there’s a good possibility that a change in your assumptions could ease that frustration. If you feel stuck, or ineffective, or unsure of what direction to go, it could be an outdated assumption that’s responsible. Each time the sun rises, life presents you with a fresh, new day. Let it serve as a reminder of the value that can come from a fresh, new persp...

Live the reality of your own best possibilities. Make use of your resources and efforts, your attention and passion, to bring those possibilities to life. Take the energy from your desires, regrets, your frustrations and dreams, and put that energy into positive action. Make focused, meaningful use of the opportunity in each moment.  The possibilities are awesome, but don’t merely stand in awe of them. Become a living expression of those possibilities.  Now is your chance to make a difference. And that’s something you know, at the deepest level, you want to do.  If you don’t do all you can with this day, the time will come when you’ll desperately wish you had. So go ahead and grab the opportunity while it’s here.  Your best possibilities are well within reach. Touch them, work for them, live them, and transform them into reality.