SELF IMPROVEMENT AND MOTIVATION

You don’t have to do what’s expected.  You have the opportunity to do better. You don’t have to answer anger with more anger.  You can answer with understanding, cooperation and compassion. You don’t have to answer criticism by being defensive.  You can answer criticism by being open, honest, helpful and appreciative. Look for ways to give life a pleasant surprise. Step away from the expected and predictable, and you yourself will enjoy many pleasant surprises. Instead of just reacting by habit or by conditioning, get creative. See every encounter as your chance to make life more interesting and enjoyable. People love pleasant surprises, so put yourself in the business of delivering them. Be surprising, in a good way, and transform life in your own unique style. Don't have to be a valentine, don't have to be an event, there is never a reason of not surprising another and giving them a gift... Gifts are like compliments falling from...

This is a day to be treasured. Enjoy it.  Celebrate this life of yours, and the opportunity to live it. Allow yourself to feel the goodness that swirls through each moment. Seize upon every chance to uplift those around you. Experience how great it feels to give value to whatever situation you’re in. Watch and listen and learn from the fascinating stories being told through the words, actions and lives of those around you. Find new, rich and compelling ways to tell your own special story in all you do. Marvel again at the beauty you’re able to witness. And take a little while to simply enjoy, with no agenda, with no particular expectations, and with a joyous newborn sense of wonder. Walk gently and lovingly through the treasure that is this day. Let your thankful presence increase that treasure even more.

When it comes to success, I find it’s much more about mindset and attitude than any external factors.  Many hugely successful people are able to overcome incredible odds to become successful — and that is almost always due to their attitudes. I also believe that a person may choose his or her attitude — or at the very least take steps to change how they approach situations — to improve their chances of achieving success. So what attitudes make a successful person?  I’ve chosen my top seven examples below: Have passion for your work.  People who are successful in their field tend to have an insatiable passion for it, because it’s nearly impossibly to be truly successful when you don’t have a passion for the process. " When you have a passion for something then you tend not only to be better at it, but you work harder at it too ." -Vera Wang Exude self-confidence.  Successful people often believe in themselves even when no one else does. It isn’t about self-del...

Give in to your best intentions. Give in to your dreams. Give in to the opportunity of this moment. Give in to the positive possibilities, and let them pull you forward. It is good that you’ve been where you have been, because it has brought you to where you are now. Allow the joy that is now possible, allow the fulfillment, allow the love and richness and life. Enjoy moving past any excuses and limitations you may have imagined. Give in to your highest vision, and bring that vision to life today. Spend some time reminding yourself how good life is at its heart. Let go of your hesitation, and experience the great life that you deserve and that you are able to create in this moment. You know how great life can be. Give in to your own unique greatness, and share it joyfully with all the world. Action Work 1. SWOT analysis of your self. 2. Ask your boss or colleague to be sincere and do a SWOT on you. Cover work and personal. 3. Write what's your strength and work o...

Let love and joy and goodness get through to you. Let all the rest fall gently away. Take whatever the world offers and direct it toward what matters. Be strong, inside, where strength makes all the difference. You don’t have to be drawn into the negativity of the moment. You can choose to live at a higher level, not arrogantly but gratefully and lovingly. You can choose purpose over pettiness any hour, every hour of the day. What gets inside and stays inside and grows, is up to you. Imagine joy, and it is there. Imagine looking at life from a perspective of love, and you do. You really can transform difficulty into achievement, anxiety into peace, conflict into cooperation. Decide to nurture and use the strength inside, and make it so. How to build a strong inner self:- Confidence - comes from knowledge, experience and informations. Attitude - Having the right attitude is so important in anything you do. Action - Speaks from all you learn to attain the res...

What if someone offered you ten million dollars, and the only condition was that you had to explain in advance what you would do with it? Would you take that offer, and would you be able to come up with something meaningful to do with it? Life each day offers you an opportunity that is worth far more than any amount of money. Yet you often fail to seize most of that opportunity because you just can’t commit on which way to go. It’s not because you don’t know. It’s because you don’t allow yourself to believe that you can move in the direction you truly want to move. Yes, you do know what you expect from life when you expect life to be the best it can be. In everything you like and dislike, in every opinion, in every frustration, in every joy, you know. So admit that you know, admit what you desire, let it inform your actions, and let it put the energy of passion into all you do. Love all that you love, with all that you are, and enjoy being who you really want to be. ...

Don’t expect a free ride. Do the work to create a great ride. If you insist on a Free Ride take the RAPID PINK BUS in Kuala Lumpur Malaysia. Don’t wish for a life free of effort. Embrace your ability to put forth effort, and arrange your life so that all your efforts are highly fulfilling. Remember Rome was never built in a day and then today it is a magnificent masterpiece.  Can an apple tree give you fruits the day after it was planted? So effort is required, care, appreciate, provide for and guide it. As enticing as it might seem, you will not find any real joy in running away from your responsibilities. Choose instead to celebrate those responsibilities, and to experience the value that comes from honoring and supporting them. Your life is a grand opportunity, and this day is a crucial part of that opportunity. Just like any valuable opportunity, it is highly demanding. So stand tall, and feel the joy of knowing that you are meeting those demands. Work with...

The only way you’ll ever be happy is to be happy with what you have. You can be happy this very instant if you’ll simply be happy with what you have. Being happy with what you have doesn’t prevent you from creating more. In fact, it puts you in a powerful position to add new value to your world and your life. When you’re happy with what you have, you’re deeply in touch with life’s abundance. Within that abundance is every good possibility. Be happy, and thankful, for the way life is. It will open your eyes to the best possibilities for the way life can be. There is great value in whatever you already have. The way to see that value, and to make full use of it, is to be happy with what you have. Life’s richness is yours the moment you allow it. Be happy with what you have, and nothing can stop you from having it all.

Be of good cheer today, no matter what life hands you. Be of good cheer, because it’s a whole lot more effective than the alternative. The situation may be challenging, but you don’t have to let it ruin your enjoyment of the moment. Life may have given you disappointment, but you don’t have to perpetuate that disappointment. The best thing you can do when things go wrong is to think and speak and act as if things will get better. And when you do, more likely than not, things will get better. A negative situation is not made better by a negative attitude. What will actually do some good is to turn the situation on its head by being positive about it. Be of good cheer, and see what a difference it can make. Be of good cheer, and add something positive to every place you go. Be of good cheer, not because you don’t know any better, but because you do. Be of good cheer, and be the difference that turns things around in a positive way.

What is Coaching? Coaching focuses on future possibilities and utilises learning from past experiences. Coaching is more about how things are done, rather than what things are done. It is about unlocking a person's potential and maximising their performance. It is about helping people to discover answers for themselves rather than advising. Coaching works on resolving problems below the level where they occur. For example, beliefs and values drive behaviours and beliefs and values come from our identity. Therefore, working with a problem that manifests itself at the level of behaviour, means the coach working with you at the level of beliefs and values. It is like peeling away the top layers of an onion to discover that the problem lies at the core. Coaching done well is about working at the core, which resolves not only the presenting problem but also problems which at the time are not even manifesting themselves yet. Coaching is about building a relationship which is based...

Hi All, I'm sure you have had experiences with people whom you are trying to coach to answer this with a big "No". Let's take a closer look. How coachable a person is will depend on several factors and these factors can positively influenced by a skilful coach to some degree to create higher levels of openness and receptivity in the coachee. Factors that influence a person's coachability level are: 1.  Perception of intention  - "Is the coach trying to change me to someone he wants me to be or helping me to change to who I want to be?" When coachees feel it is the former, they will resist even though the intention of the coach is good. It is human nature to want autonomy and control over one's life. Help coachees identify effective behaviours and help them see how that can help them achieve their goals. 2. Coachee's technical capability - Coaching works well when the coachee has some degree of competency in their area of work. They s...

Commitment is not a burden when you are committed to what really matters. Strenuous, complicated effort is not a burden when it furthers the interest of what’s important to you. In fact, commitment, and all the things necessary to support that commitment, can be immensely empowering. Commitment gives you something to live for, and the value of that is immeasurable. Commitment is not something to be taken lightly. Yet it is not something to be avoided, either. Commit yourself to what you care about. Commit yourself to those you love. Commit yourself, and you have a good, undeniable reason to get up in the morning, every morning. Commit yourself, and you have a solid platform from which to make real, meaningful progress in life. Be sure of whom or what you’re committing to, and then be relentless in supporting that commitment. Make the commitment, and make real richness in this world.

You’re not too old, too young, too rich, too poor, too big or too small, too outgoing or too shy, too ambitious or too lazy. You’re you, and you are just right. You’ve learned from what you’ve done and from the consequences you’ve experienced, and now you’re ready to move forward with that accumulation of wisdom. Instead of judging what and where you’ve been, put your focus on visualizing what you can now do. Don’t get caught up in deciding whether you have too much or too little. Simply decide what the best next step is, and take it. If you’re constantly comparing yourself with others, you’re missing the point. You are who you are, and there’s enormous value in that, and it’s time to give your own special gifts to life. Find great delight in fellowship with others, but don’t feel like you have to imitate them. The best thing you have to offer is you, so let go of the pretenses and worries and just have fun being yourself. You are perfectly positioned to have a positive and unique impa...

Every assumption you have is based on what you’ve experienced in the past. The world has changed since you formed your assumptions, and perhaps it is time for some of those assumptions to change, too. Assumptions save you the time and trouble of thinking through every decision and impression. Yet there are times when it would be much better to think than to assume. Many assumptions are so deeply ingrained that you don’t even realize you have them. Stand back, put some effort into examining your assumptions, and you’ll likely find some opportunities for improvement you never even knew you had. If there’s something that frustrates you, there’s a good possibility that a change in your assumptions could ease that frustration. If you feel stuck, or ineffective, or unsure of what direction to go, it could be an outdated assumption that’s responsible. Each time the sun rises, life presents you with a fresh, new day. Let it serve as a reminder of the value that can come from a fresh, new persp...

Live the reality of your own best possibilities. Make use of your resources and efforts, your attention and passion, to bring those possibilities to life. Take the energy from your desires, regrets, your frustrations and dreams, and put that energy into positive action. Make focused, meaningful use of the opportunity in each moment.  The possibilities are awesome, but don’t merely stand in awe of them. Become a living expression of those possibilities.  Now is your chance to make a difference. And that’s something you know, at the deepest level, you want to do.  If you don’t do all you can with this day, the time will come when you’ll desperately wish you had. So go ahead and grab the opportunity while it’s here.  Your best possibilities are well within reach. Touch them, work for them, live them, and transform them into reality.

If you would like to feel good about today, go ahead. You can choose to feel whatever you want to feel. It may seem that your feelings are dictated by the situation, but that does not necessarily have to be the case. You can decide to transform the situation so it aligns with your chosen feelings and expectations. Feelings are a powerful part of your life, and you can take control of that power. You can base your feelings more on inside intentions than on outside influences. You don’t have to arrange the world in a particular way just to create a desired feeling. Instead, go ahead, allow the feeling, and then let the positive power of that feeling flow into your world. Feel by choice, not by chance. Choose your feelings based not on what has happened, but based on what you wish to do with all that’s now available to you. You are empowered to make life great, so feel that power. Feel the positive possibilities of now, and experience yourself bringing them to life.

In this moment, there is nothing to worry about. All is as it is, and worry will not change it in the slightest. In this moment, hope is bright, alive, filling every corner of existence. Now, you can let go of what troubles you and allow the best of what inspires you. Now, there is no outside influence that can prevent you from giving your best to life. Go ahead and live, love, create, feel, explore, and be fully present in the shimmering sea of abundance and possibility that is now. There is beauty, here in front of you, that has never been before and will never be again. Enjoy its unique gift, just because you can. You are more powerful than you have ever realized. Use that power for good, and feel it grow. All is possible, so choose what is right. And live it with a passion that delights the whole world.

If you have to be someone you don’t want to be in order to attain success, is that really success?  If you must compromise your values to get what you want, is that really what you want? What people, ideas, values, passions, interests, places and experiences can you give your unconditional love to? Remind yourself often to focus your awareness, your efforts and your energy on those things. Life in each moment is a precious opportunity. Give the real, important stuff the attention it deserves. If you’re getting too stressed out, or frustrated, or cynical, perhaps it’s because you’re too focused on things that fill you with negativity. Step back, think of what truly matters, and put yourself in a more positive mental environment. You cannot make your life full by putting more and more empty, meaningless things into it. Instead, choose quality, choose substance, and choose to do the things that excite and fulfill the authentic you. Right now is your sole oppor...

Do you realize how much of a difference you have made in life, and continue to make? Very likely, the answer is a resounding no. You cannot possibly know all the consequences and ramifications of your actions in the lives of other people. Each thing you do takes on a life of its own and can affect people far removed in time and distance from the original action. You cannot control all the consequences that eventually flow from what you do. That makes it critically important that you put as much love, authenticity and positive intention into whatever you do, while you still have influence over it. Each moment, you are sending energy out into life. That energy gets multiplied and repeated for a very long time. The world in which you live is filled with the still-present energy from the long-forgotten actions of everyone who has ever traveled through it. And on this very day, you can do your part to increase the amount of positive energy that settles upon the days to come. Act as if whate...

When you get negative results after a lot of hard work, that can certainly be disappointing. But there’s nothing to be gained by letting those negative results give you a negative attitude. Choose your attitude based not on what has already happened, but on what you intend to make happen now. Though you may have had a negative experience, there’s no reason to continue on that downward path. When you’ve fallen short of the goal, that’s no time to lose confidence in your ability. After all, you’re more highly experienced than ever, and you’ve just developed a very clear understanding of what doesn’t work. Decide to make good and positive use of that newfound wisdom. Go ahead and get started applying your increased level of experience in a useful and productive way. Step away from that worthless self pity and stride confidently toward a higher degree of empowerment. Your hard work has earned you the right to be more confident than ever before. When you get a negative result, do yourself a...

Regrets will do you no good, but action will. Wishing, wondering and speculating will not bring much value into your world, but action will. Are you going to just think about it, getting angry, resentful and dejected about it, or are you going to do something about it? Now would be the perfect opportunity to do something about it. Staying frustrated won’t make you feel any better, but action will. Work to resolve those frustrations, and to create a new situation that puts those frustrations behind you. Action is difficult, complicated and inconvenient. And action is worth all the trouble, because action will make a difference. Action will bring you experience and achievement, and provide options you never had before. Action will transform problems into opportunities, and dreams into reality. What action can you take today that will make for a more positive tomorrow? Take your pick, and get started now.

Great employees spend the majority of their time helping other people succeed: Their company, their employees, their customers and vendors and suppliers... the list goes on and on. Great employees also spend some time helping themselves succeed, both for "selfish" reasons and because their success creates success for others. Rightly or wrongly, to succeed you can't just do a great job -- you also have to find ways to get noticed for doing a great job. Here are six ways: Be known for something specific. Meeting standards, however lofty those standards may be, won't help you stand out. So go above the norm. Be the leader known for turning around struggling employees. Be the owner who makes a few deliveries a week to personally check in with customers. Be the manager who consistently promotes from within. Be known as the employee who responds quicker, acts faster, or always follows up. In short, be so great at something that you're the first person peopl...

Without the difficult times, you could not fully appreciate the good times. Without the good times, the difficult times would be infinitely more difficult. Life changes, and that’s what makes it life. Life changes, and in the changes live every possibility. Do not boast too loudly about your good fortune or despair too long about the disappointments. Things will change, and with that change will come new opportunities and new challenges. Instead of fighting and judging, worrying and fretting, make the choice to marvel at the richness of it all. Enjoy, learn from, and be inspired by what’s here while it’s here, then be ready to move quickly forward as life continues its ceaseless transformation. Care deeply and profoundly, but don’t let yourself take things too seriously. Walk that fine, marvelous line between unshakable responsibility and joyous serendipity. In the ups, in the downs, in the detours and straightaways, there is much to treasure. So breathe in the richness, and treasure i...